Yes, people.. Zahra sekarang memang suka sangat mengamuk tak tentu hala. Her overuse word nowadays is nanak. Semua pun taknak, bila kita buat je.. ha siapla, dia menjerit, menangis, berguling di lantai tak kira tempat dan ketika.
Suruh mandi, nanak.. then dah mandi, suruh keluar dari bilik air, nanak – akibatnya kena paksa keluar dan menangis berguling sampai muntah.
Pilih baju pun satu hal, taknak baju ni taknak baju tu – nak pakai baju Oak (Power rangers) jer: kekadang rasa nak je aku buang baju tuh.
Dan satu lagi, teddybear dia tuh.. jangan la simply memandai mengubah kedudukan – boleh jerit-jerit nangis macam kena pukul.
Last week we went to Alamanda, and yes she threw her tantrum. Punca sebab taknak dok dalam stroller, nak dukung/jalan dan hanya teddybear sahaja yang boleh duduk dalam itu stroller. Weol beli barang quit banyak so since she doesn’t want to sit in the stroll it might as well put the barang in it. Tapi marah, dan mengamuk berguling di lantai Alamanda. Aduhh.. sungguh menguji kesabaran.
Taken http://www.parentingtoddlers.com/toddlertempertantrum.html :
Toddler temper tantrum is something very common. Between the ages of one and three, your previously gentle and loving toddler will have a change of personality. He will no longer be content to accept your rules for everything, but will want his own say in what he does and does not do. Quite frequently, this will result in toddler temper tantrum.
When a toddler starts having tantrums, the first thing the parents should do is decide what is important and what isn't important. If you want to have your own way in everything your toddler disagrees with, then you're likely to spend the majority of your time in a battle of wills. The best plan is to make as few rules as possible. Your child will be more likely to adhere to a lower number of rules and he will also know that those rules are important. Letting him get away with eating breakfast cereal with his fingers may be worth the mess if you know that he will definitely hold your hand to cross a road.
Once you do decide what is important, don't give in. Make sure your rules are constant. If you make a rule that no biscuits may be eaten an hour before tea-time, stick by that rule, even if your toddler's cries are loud enough to annoy the neighbours. Once you give in and hand him a biscuit, he will expect one every time he cries.
A toddler has a tantrum to try and get what they want. If this usually works, they will continue to have tantrums. If, on the other, a tantrum never produces the result they want, they will soon give it up as ineffective.
The following are a number of things you can do when your child is in the middle of a tantrum, without having to give in:
Most tantrum-throwers are trying to attract attention. If you don't give him that attention, he will lose interest and stop the tantrum.
Send him to bed or to his room.
This gives both of you a cooling down period.
Obviously, don't take your eyes off the child if you do this in public.
Start to play with a new toy, get your child a drink, go outside for a walk. Do whatever it takes to get your toddler's mind off the problem.
Toddler temper tantrum are an inevitable part of a child's development. They can't be completely avoided. But with some back-up options, hopefully the amount of time your child spends in a tantrum will be reduced.
I did asked my colleagues on how to overcome this problem. Their suggestions:
1. cakap elok-elok ngan Zahra, tanya dia apa dia nak – done this, main problem Zahra still can’t talk properly. We have a communication breakdown: tak faham apa dia cakap jadi tak tahu apa dia nak.. erm..
2. mandi kat air kolah masjid – been there, done that.. heheheh
3. bagi je adik kat Zahra – ok, ni je belum… *prayhard*